Emory Charlton Gray was born on July 15, 1844, in Wythe County, Virginia, to Thomas and Sarah Gray. His father was a farmer who owned $2,000 of real estate and $500 of personal property by 1860. He grew up and attended school in Wythe County, and by 1860, he was working as a farm laborer. He enlisted in the Confederate army on February 5, 1863, and he mustered in as a private in Company B of the 29th Virginia Infantry later that day. In January 1865, he was detailed to work as a surgeon’s orderly.
He returned to Wythe County after the war. He worked as a farmer, and by 1870, he owned $400 of real estate and $96 of personal property. He married Sarah Dewell on February 22, 1883. They lived in Zion, Virginia, until the 1910s, when they moved to Speedwell, Virginia. He died there on January 31, 1928, of “sufferings followed by lobular pneumonia.”